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What is Coaching?

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Coaching addresses two questions:

Who am I?

What do I want?

Sounds simple, doesn’t it? And yet, humankind has explored and returned to these questions again and again since the beginning of time. Why? Because they’re fundamental to understanding our purpose here on earth. Plato taught us centuries ago, “The life which is not examined is not worth living.”

Ultimately, these questions ask, Why am I here? However, “why” is a loaded question. It puts us on the defensive immediately, seeking to justify whatever position we hold on the question. “Who” and “What” are softer and give us room to examine ourselves in a gentler light.

Values Form our Blueprint

Who am I?

When I strip away all my accomplishments (think “resumé”) and roles (mother, HR Director), what’s left? In other words, when I no longer have external markers defining me, how do I define myself? This can be a tough question.

We live in a community, which means we are always interacting with others, which of course shapes who we are. By default, we allow how others perceive us to affect how we perceive ourselves. In coaching, we gradually turn from an external to internal orientation. We ask ourselves, Who do you [your inner being] think you are? No reference, of course, to my favourite short story writer, Alice Munro!

We discover who we are by identifying our personal values, which are distinct from morals and ethics, although they are often lumped together. Values are unique to you. What you value and the combination of those values form your unique blueprint. By knowing your values, you recognize when you’re working with them or against them.

What do I want?

Many struggle with this question. They feel stuck, have allowed themselves to be defined by others, or haven’t answered the first question, Who am I?

The good news is, once you know who you are, figuring out what you want is much easier. Align yourself to what feels good. Use the Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale I provided in my Heart-Based Presence blog as help.

Feeling stuck is another challenge. When we’re stuck, it’s often because we have a particular view on a topic we can’t budge from. I quit talks about one way to see new perspectives.

Moving away from being defined by others requires a shift from the external to internal. This often naturally occurs in middle age but can occur at any point in life, usually when there’s upheaval. My blog on Perfectionism talks about this transition and the result – personal and professional growth.

Career Coaching

I chose career coaching because it’s the outcome in Western culture of “who I am” and “what do I want.” In our culture, we define ourselves by what we do. I think that’s why so many wrestle with middle age. The choices we made when we were younger no longer reflect who we are or what we want. We’ve grown/evolved but we haven’t acknowledged it.

What we do is important because it reflects who we are. When we live our values, we feel good. Our lives feel purposeful. And at the end of the day, that’s what’s important. We want to know our lives have meaning. Isn’t it fascinating how we are asking the same questions Plato did in Ancient Greece?

If you want further clarity on coaching, click my PDF above called What’s the Diff? where I explain the nuances between coaching, therapy, and consulting.

 

You have to be open minded in order to grow. The coaching that Laura gave me opened my eyes to what and how I was doing things and allowed me to see the bigger picture. I am not done yet but I already see the changes in my everyday life.

MM

I think coaching is a great way to help you clear your mind when you get stuck with overwhelming situations or when stepping into changes in your life.

MO

Coaching is life changing. It pushes you outside your comfort zone and challenges your perspectives.  It is highly motivating and the exercises and techniques used are both fun and informative.  I think the main benefits of coaching are to see yourself, others and the world more clearly.  I think coaching is valuable to anyone regardless of where you are in your life or career.

LE

I honestly never thought I’d need a coach. I thought coaching was for CEOs and industry VIPs. I didn’t think it was for the “little guys” (i.e. me). Now, I’m of the belief that everyone – yes, EVERYONE – needs a coach. Coaching has really benefitted me and I’m so grateful to have had that time with Laura. It’s changed my life!

VB

Laura is very patient. She took the time to understand what was causing me to be stuck where I am today and help me build a better vision so I can continue to grow.

MM

I think Laura’s coaching was what I had been waiting for. Laura was so approachable, kind, and open. Her willingness to help and support made a difference for me. I found in her coaching new strategies, ideas, and perspectives that I could incorporate into my goals and objectives that I didn’t see before.

MO

Laura is an incredibly intuitive, positive and caring coach. Her techniques helped me recognize both my strengths and areas I might want to explore as I embark on the next chapter of my career. The exercises she employed were instrumental in providing self perspective and challenging my frames of reference.

LE

Laura is a natural coach. Her probing and compassionate questions helped me learn about myself: my value system, interests, goals and strengths.

LM

Coaching sessions with Laura gave me new perspectives on how to process specific feelings and situations in life.  She showed me how to sit with my emotions, acknowledge them, and then use visualization strategies to move through them.  I now feel more confident and in control of how I choose to walk through life.

CP

From the beginning, Laura put me at ease, creating a safe, open space for me to talk and share freely without fear of judgement. I loved the variety of approaches she used depending on the topic we were working on and it was fun being able to try out things I wouldn’t have considered before! With Laura’s coaching, I substantially grew my confidence in the workplace, overcame fears, dealt with issues I’d been carrying around for many years and, most importantly, learned to value myself and define a path forward into the future.

AG

Laura’s coaching was a breath of fresh air and EXACTLY what I needed at that point of my life. I didn’t realize how impactful coaching was going to be, but by the end of the sessions together, I left feeling refreshed, inspired and genuinely curious about what my future held for me. Because of Laura and her coaching, I believe I became a better person – someone who is more open-minded, someone with a clearer focus, and someone who is willing to explore opportunities and possibilities far more than I ever did before.

VB

I engaged Laura for coaching as I took on an expanded role leading an asset management company in Canada. As a female, I knew I would be a role model and had high expectations of myself. I was feeling overwhelmed and anxious.

In our first few coaching sessions we worked through exercises that allowed me to reflect on my purpose, leadership style and what mattered most to me. I continue to be grounded by the clarity I achieve in my coaching sessions – allowing me to be resilient and confident when challenges came my way.

OS