Some coaching sessions open with the client feeling flustered, angry or sad about something that happened earlier in the day. Or they’re anxious about an event that has yet to take place. Bottom line: the client isn’t present in the moment. When that happens, my role is help them become more present so they can enter the coaching space comfortably, ready to focus on our conversation. Heart-based presence opens the client to make the changes that brought the client to coaching.
One simple way to do it is to look within and find your current state of being. Click here to see how it works. Through this beautiful exercise, we see ourselves from different perspectives. These multiple viewpoints – spirit, mind, body, and heart – allow for the complexity of human experience.
Our spirits are a wonderful way to access wisdom. To remind ourselves we are naturally creative, resourceful, and whole. As Jesus said to the disciples, “The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.” (Matthew 26:41). Often we find our spirits have more energy than our bodies. Spirit often has less judgement and isn’t time-bound. It is always present.
All too often we focus only on our minds. Most of us live in our thoughts. It makes us human but it can also make us crazy. Modernist stream-of-consciousness writing became popular in the twentieth century. It tried to address the myriad of thoughts we humans have each day, to greater or lesser degrees of success. I mean, really. Has anyone actually read Ulysses? 700 pages about one day from the perspective of three characters? Here’s the thing. In the end, our thoughts either take us to our past or our future, basically, anywhere but the present moment.
With our bodies, we typically ignore them unless there’s something wrong. Many exercise to stay fit. Some of us clearly understand the mind-body connection. I exercise = I feel good. Otherwise, our bodies play a backseat to the action happening in the driver’s seat, our minds. And yet, our bodies only know the present moment. I only know what I feel inside right now. I can’t feel what I felt yesterday or tomorrow – I can only imagine it in my head.
What about hearts? In honour of Valentine’s Day, let’s take a moment to celebrate our hearts. When our hearts are full, we feel:
Love – Joy – Appreciation – Empowered – Free
Abraham-Hicks identified these traits at the top of the Emotional Guidance Scale. Use it to guide your heart in the coming week. The idea is not to jump from the bottom (despair/powerlessness) to the top in one go. You just need to move up the scale, like a ladder, step by step or skipping a few rungs. It’s a sensible and sensitive way for your heart to feel its way forward.