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How to Connect to your Leader Within

Free will or predestination? It’s a question as old as time.  I won’t debate the merits of both arguments because I have a firm stance: free will.

Because of free will you have choice, choice in how you respond to a person or circumstance. Your best responses come when you listen to your Leader Within. Today’s Life fully loved provides the steps you can take to do so.

Leader Within

You choose whether to listen to your inner guidance system – or not. In CTI coaching, it’s called your Leader Within. The Positive Intelligence (PQ) model calls it Sage.

Regardless of naming convention, your inner voice knows what’s best for you. You access it through empathy. If you want to visualize its location in your brain, it lives on the right side, in the non-verbal part of you that holds imagery, emotion, and energy.

For me, though, my Leader Within lives in my heart. It keeps me whole by connecting my mind, body, heart, and spirit.

Tune Inward

You hear your inner voice by tuning in to the right frequency. If you don’t hear yours, you may be listening to a different radio station. Your radio station may have lots of static or play loud music.

Your Leader Within has a quieter signal. You have to listen more carefully. To tune in to the right station, start by recognizing that the current one you’re listening to isn’t the only station. It’s just your default station.

You can select another station any time you want. When you allow stillness to settle within you, that calmer voice can be heard. Trust that voice. It’s on your side. You know it’s the right one when the voice speaks lovingly – positively – instead of with fear – negatively.

Identifying your Leader Within

It can be hard to listen to your internal voice, to distinguish saboteur voices from your Leader Within. Here are three ways to help you identify it correctly:

  1. Get present – 6 techniques;
  2. Drink the Kool-Aid – understand love as the cornerstone of Leader Within;
  3. Choose to see things differently – focus on the emotion behind your thought.

Light of the World

Your Leader Within holds the light within you.  When you connect to yours, you see you’re part of a larger grid. You have a function – to light the world. You are not here randomly living in a random-less universe.

The world isn’t meaningless but meaningful, same as you. Each person has a way to serve in this meaningful world. To be God’s Hands.

And let me clear to those who don’t subscribe to a spiritual belief system that I’m speaking to you as well. You live in a self-fulfilling universe which means what you see is what you get and vice versa.

Dissatisfied with what you see or what you’ve got? Change it. Make a choice to be or do differently. Be different by shifting an attitude. Even a millimetre is good. Do differently by trying something new. Remind yourself not to stick to Einstein’s definition of insanity – doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Choice and Free Will

You are never trapped. If you feel imprisoned, it’s because of prison bars of your own making. You have free will. You can choose to open that jail cell at any time, melt the iron bars, walk around or climb over them. Since you made them, you can destroy them too.

Listen to your Leader Within. Make decisions based on the guidance you receive. You can’t go wrong. Live a purpose-driven life. A life fully loved.

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