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Stomach clenched, with tears in my eyes and a heavy heart, I closed the newspaper. A typical morning. Why do I do it? I feel upset after I read the daily news because most of the content is so negative.

Among other topics, today’s edition discussed another school shooting. It showed a funeral for two slain police offers responding to a domestic complaint and it talked about the absolute turmoil in a foreign country over a potential judicial overhaul.

My body (stomach), heart (heavy), and spirit (tearful) told me in their own ways how to interpret what I read in the paper. What changed is that this time I listened. I didn’t let my mind override the rest of the cues I was receiving.


Today’s world values analysis and logic. As such, it’s no wonder the mind reigns supreme. Add in the role of the ego, which is all in the head, and you can see how the mind gets weighted more heavily than body, heart, and spirit. In fact, you may live the same way as I do, “in your head.”

Yet each quadrant plays a role in holistic health – mind, body, heart, and spirit. To be whole is to find balance between these quadrants.


In Hungarian, we refer to health as “egészség.” The first part of that word, egész, means “whole.” In other words, to be whole is to be healthy.

In English, when you say “health” I bet you associate the word primarily with physical health and then, secondarily, with mental health. Heart and spirit don’t belong in the current definition of health.

Separation of Mind and Body

The human obsession with the mind is ongoing but its separation from the body only occurred in the last few hundred years here in the West. Before that, people accepted the relationship between the two and, indeed, extended the definition of healthy to encompass the “whole” self, which included the interplay of heart and spirit.

The West may have lost sight of what it means to be whole, then, but it doesn’t mean it can’t get it back.

To be whole is greater than having a healthy mind and body. Wholeness acknowledges the need for emotional health, which gets placed under mental health these days, a misnomer in my opinion. It also embraces spiritual health.

The term “whole-hearted” means being welcoming, open, and receptive.

Being whole in spirit means finding rest and ease, a sense of peace and connection to yourself and to something larger.

All these avenues give you information and are what make you whole. A healthy whole.

A Challenge

What would happen if you analyzed a situation without using your mind? Try only using physical sensation (the body) or your feelings (heart) or listening to that inner voice of wisdom (spirit).

You will quickly realize how you over-use the “mind” muscle and under-use the other ones. When you over-use a muscle, you know what happens. It gets strained/injured and needs time for repair.

Decision Time

In sum, getting healthy requires wholeness, incorporating mind, body, heart, and spirit. I’m not arguing the other quadrants are necessarily better information, but they provide more complete information. Like moving from 2D to 4D.

Using my whole self, I have come to a decision. I’m cancelling my newspaper subscription. At this point, I’m choosing differently based on what the rest of my healthy self wants me to know.

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How will you use your whole self today?

Next time you need to process a situation or make a decision, try it.

You have to be open minded in order to grow. The coaching that Laura gave me opened my eyes to what and how I was doing things and allowed me to see the bigger picture. I am not done yet but I already see the changes in my everyday life.


I think coaching is a great way to help you clear your mind when you get stuck with overwhelming situations or when stepping into changes in your life.


Coaching is life changing. It pushes you outside your comfort zone and challenges your perspectives.  It is highly motivating and the exercises and techniques used are both fun and informative.  I think the main benefits of coaching are to see yourself, others and the world more clearly.  I think coaching is valuable to anyone regardless of where you are in your life or career.


I honestly never thought I’d need a coach. I thought coaching was for CEOs and industry VIPs. I didn’t think it was for the “little guys” (i.e. me). Now, I’m of the belief that everyone – yes, EVERYONE – needs a coach. Coaching has really benefitted me and I’m so grateful to have had that time with Laura. It’s changed my life!


Laura is very patient. She took the time to understand what was causing me to be stuck where I am today and help me build a better vision so I can continue to grow.


I think Laura’s coaching was what I had been waiting for. Laura was so approachable, kind, and open. Her willingness to help and support made a difference for me. I found in her coaching new strategies, ideas, and perspectives that I could incorporate into my goals and objectives that I didn’t see before.


Laura is an incredibly intuitive, positive and caring coach. Her techniques helped me recognize both my strengths and areas I might want to explore as I embark on the next chapter of my career. The exercises she employed were instrumental in providing self perspective and challenging my frames of reference.


Laura is a natural coach. Her probing and compassionate questions helped me learn about myself: my value system, interests, goals and strengths.


Coaching sessions with Laura gave me new perspectives on how to process specific feelings and situations in life.  She showed me how to sit with my emotions, acknowledge them, and then use visualization strategies to move through them.  I now feel more confident and in control of how I choose to walk through life.


From the beginning, Laura put me at ease, creating a safe, open space for me to talk and share freely without fear of judgement. I loved the variety of approaches she used depending on the topic we were working on and it was fun being able to try out things I wouldn’t have considered before! With Laura’s coaching, I substantially grew my confidence in the workplace, overcame fears, dealt with issues I’d been carrying around for many years and, most importantly, learned to value myself and define a path forward into the future.


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I engaged Laura for coaching as I took on an expanded role leading an asset management company in Canada. As a female, I knew I would be a role model and had high expectations of myself. I was feeling overwhelmed and anxious.

In our first few coaching sessions we worked through exercises that allowed me to reflect on my purpose, leadership style and what mattered most to me. I continue to be grounded by the clarity I achieve in my coaching sessions – allowing me to be resilient and confident when challenges came my way.