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How to make GREAT decisions

Do you want to make great decisions? Let me share my method which uses the left- and right-brain, thus combining the rational with the intuitive. The result is that you’ll feel confident about your choice and know exactly what to do next.

You’re introduced to something new, perhaps an opportunity or a challenge. What’s your immediate emotional reaction? Identify it. Use the Emotional Guidance Scale for help.

Positive Intelligence (PQ) simplifies this emotional identification process as negative or positive. Use PQ if that resonates more. Ask yourself whether you feel negatively or positively about the situation.

Allow yourself to feel the emotion instead of pushing it away.

Personally, when I’m fearful, I get numb or separated from my body. Disconnection is a common physiological response to high stress or fear.

Avoidance. Numbing. Disconnection. They act as protective tools from perceived external threat. Unfortunately, that protective wiring is faulty much of the time.

Be aware that you can only feel in your body, not your mind, so let your body deliver its message. Remember the vagus nerve moves from the large intestine to the brain.

Did you know you only feel an emotion for 90 seconds? For all the avoidance of strong emotions such as fear or extreme stress, you may find it comforting to know that it only takes 90 seconds to process it.

Get grounded. You’re ready now. Imagine yourself as a majestic oak tree with a huge canopy and extensive roots. Extend those roots, specifically, the taproot, deep into the soil toward the earth’s core. Plant yourself firmly.

Breathe. Inhale for three counts, exhale for seven, pause for eight and restart the cycle. Repeat three or four times. By doing this type of breathing, you increase the amount of oxygen in your body by removing excess carbon dioxide. You’ll notice a heightened focus.

Grounding yourself brings you into the present moment. When you’re present, you see clearly. You have access to your full creative potential while simultaneously detaching from self-limiting beliefs.

As Einstein recommended, “Spend 55 minutes on the problem and five (5) on the solution.” I use this technique in coaching to keep clients focused on curiosity and not on outcome. You generate more ideas this way.

Explore your options. You are now using your right brain, which holds your creativity, visual imagery, patterns, and emotions. Play with the images, relationships, and configurations without assigning words to them. The right brain does not hold language so understand that as soon as you give words to something, you’re providing an interpretation to it.

Once you produce your list of options, you can sift through them like a library patron does with a card catalogue. (This reference may only resonate with older readers. For younger ones, think of a video game where you can choose how to dress, protect, defend, or build within your chosen universe.)

Weigh your preferred options before making your final choice. You’ll know it’s the right one when you find the one with the most weight.

From this grounded place of knowing, it’s easy to move forward. Straightforward even. Act on your weightiest solution.

Getting grounded helps you transition from a fixed to open mindset, from left brain to right brain. In Sage mode (right brain), you retrieve your natural intuition. Then, by combining it with rational left-brain thinking in steps 5 and 6, you become a powerhouse.

May this guidance invigorate your decision-making. Let me know how it goes.

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You have to be open minded in order to grow. The coaching that Laura gave me opened my eyes to what and how I was doing things and allowed me to see the bigger picture. I am not done yet but I already see the changes in my everyday life.


I think coaching is a great way to help you clear your mind when you get stuck with overwhelming situations or when stepping into changes in your life.


Coaching is life changing. It pushes you outside your comfort zone and challenges your perspectives.  It is highly motivating and the exercises and techniques used are both fun and informative.  I think the main benefits of coaching are to see yourself, others and the world more clearly.  I think coaching is valuable to anyone regardless of where you are in your life or career.


I honestly never thought I’d need a coach. I thought coaching was for CEOs and industry VIPs. I didn’t think it was for the “little guys” (i.e. me). Now, I’m of the belief that everyone – yes, EVERYONE – needs a coach. Coaching has really benefitted me and I’m so grateful to have had that time with Laura. It’s changed my life!


Laura is very patient. She took the time to understand what was causing me to be stuck where I am today and help me build a better vision so I can continue to grow.


I think Laura’s coaching was what I had been waiting for. Laura was so approachable, kind, and open. Her willingness to help and support made a difference for me. I found in her coaching new strategies, ideas, and perspectives that I could incorporate into my goals and objectives that I didn’t see before.


Laura is an incredibly intuitive, positive and caring coach. Her techniques helped me recognize both my strengths and areas I might want to explore as I embark on the next chapter of my career. The exercises she employed were instrumental in providing self perspective and challenging my frames of reference.


Laura is a natural coach. Her probing and compassionate questions helped me learn about myself: my value system, interests, goals and strengths.


Coaching sessions with Laura gave me new perspectives on how to process specific feelings and situations in life.  She showed me how to sit with my emotions, acknowledge them, and then use visualization strategies to move through them.  I now feel more confident and in control of how I choose to walk through life.


From the beginning, Laura put me at ease, creating a safe, open space for me to talk and share freely without fear of judgement. I loved the variety of approaches she used depending on the topic we were working on and it was fun being able to try out things I wouldn’t have considered before! With Laura’s coaching, I substantially grew my confidence in the workplace, overcame fears, dealt with issues I’d been carrying around for many years and, most importantly, learned to value myself and define a path forward into the future.


Laura’s coaching was a breath of fresh air and EXACTLY what I needed at that point of my life. I didn’t realize how impactful coaching was going to be, but by the end of the sessions together, I left feeling refreshed, inspired and genuinely curious about what my future held for me. Because of Laura and her coaching, I believe I became a better person – someone who is more open-minded, someone with a clearer focus, and someone who is willing to explore opportunities and possibilities far more than I ever did before.


I engaged Laura for coaching as I took on an expanded role leading an asset management company in Canada. As a female, I knew I would be a role model and had high expectations of myself. I was feeling overwhelmed and anxious.

In our first few coaching sessions we worked through exercises that allowed me to reflect on my purpose, leadership style and what mattered most to me. I continue to be grounded by the clarity I achieve in my coaching sessions – allowing me to be resilient and confident when challenges came my way.